Though it may be painful, most people would prefer to know the truth about their partner’s infidelity rather than continue living in denial.
People hire private investigators since it is their profession to look into rumours of infidelity or actual suspicions of one’s partner having an affair.
Private investigators have a unique set of skills that allow them to spot the telltale signals that someone is hiding something (or someone).
In order to learn the telltale indicators of infidelity, the less obvious warning signs, and when to start freaking out, we consulted with a seasoned private investigator and former federal agent.
Tom Martin stated to The Independent that dishonest people always behave in the same ways.
Martin, president of Martin Investigative Services in Newport Beach, California, wrote the book Seeing Life through Private Eyes, in which he details the 20 most telling indicators that may suggest adultery based on his observations of similar signs over the course of 40 years.
Even if you detect a few of them, he says, there’s no need to panic, even though it may look that way. However, according to Martin, if you notice four or more, it is tantamount to admitting your partner’s guilt.
He informed us the most obvious warning signals include things like increased work hours, business travel, decreased sexual activity, and more defensiveness.
Signs your partner is trying to improve themselves, perhaps with you in mind, include a sudden interest in the gym or an influx of new clothes.
Because of the inevitable ups and downs of any relationship, spotting only one or two of these indicators may not be cause for suspicion; nevertheless, “if you have three or four, you have a problem,” he assured us.
Infidelity is easy prey for private investigators.
Martin asserts that intuition is one of the most reliable indicators that your partner is being dishonest, and that you should never disregard it.
- Modifying One’s Ways
- Irregularly timed departures and late returns
- Travel for business
- Away from work due to a holiday or family emergency
- Long hours of overtime
- Excessive spending that cannot be explained
- Doing business behind closed doors (Instagram, email)
- Invisible credit card statements
- Additional grooming
- Miasmic odour of another (typical lipstick on the collar)
- Spending money on presents without first seeing them
- Objects that have no rational explanation; in this case, condoms in the automobile.
- Taking the plunge and joining a fitness centre
- A call from an unidentified number that I missed.
- Secret or encrypted texting
- Reduce the amount of sexual activity
- Behaviors indicative of avoidance or defence
- Flat-out fabrications
- Aggression or a quick temper
I abhor unannounced visitors (your unexpected arrival may come at an inopportune time for a cheater)
Your gut instincts may be picking up on subtle cues even if your companion isn’t exhibiting any overt behaviours.
Martin told us that in today’s technological age, the vast majority of individuals don’t need private investigators since they can verify their own suspicions.
The rules have been altered significantly, Martin added. And technology is absolutely, positively the cause of that.
Martin claims that there is a consistent pattern of behaviour, but that it is now as simple as using a phone or accessing an iCloud account to catch the perpetrator.
People “catch them themselves” after witnessing their partners sneak off for a late-night phone call or hiding a text message, he said.
To avoid “jeopardising a precious connection over what may be baseless fears,” Martin advises keeping calm and not jumping to conclusions in such instances.
If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, looking for as little as one or as many as four of these indications could put your mind at ease. A second option is to get professional help.
The original release date for this article is August of the year 2020.